Saturday, April 3, 2010

SWF looking for her Settling Soul Mate

My sister, Casey, lived with me over the summer. Neither of us had jobs, so we watched/streamed quite a bit of tv and movies. She would often quote 30 Rock or tell me about an episode. I've always liked Tina Fey, but she took a special place in my heart during her political days. But when I watched a couple episodes of 30 Rock when it first hit the air, I wasn't hooked. I wasn't impressed. But I was also a lot less funny then.

Fortunately, I found myself with a little time one day and started watching again. Now 30 Rock is a weekly treat.

Watch this episode.

Time out. I have a feeling you didn't really watch it.

Fine. At least skip to 11:06. (If I knew how to deeplink Hulu, I would.)

"The Universe wants us to settle for one another. There has to be a reason this keeps happening to us, Liz. I think that fate is telling us this is the best we're ever going to get. We're each other's settling soul mates."
"Settling soul mates? That is grim. And I've played Monopoly alone."
"Well, I know it's not ideal. But we both benefit. I could open jars and kill bugs for you, and you could make me look less gay at work functions."
"...Why fight this? Grow old with me, Liz? In separate bedrooms."

I found my settling soul mate not too long ago.

I have made a lot of awesome friends in Tooele. Two of my favorite friends are a couple of guys who are roommates. I spend a lot of time at their house. Since I live alone and don't have family here, I've made them my family. It's the place I go when I want to be with people without having to entertain or be entertained. Nothing is required. We just chill. I like that arrangement.

On my drive back to Tooele after Christmas break, I got a few texts in a row from one of these boys. It started out with "I know you like me." I immediately responded with "You know I like ____." (Explicitness only occurs in my journal and not on a public blog.) And he did know. I've talked to him about it before.

He didn't stop. He kept telling me how much I liked him (yes, you read that correctly) and suggested we start dating. His rationale? "We get along just fine, and you don't let me walk all over you."

We get along just fine.

Yeah. That's exactly the relationship I'm looking for.

Never once did he tell me he liked me, or that he liked spending time with me, or that I made him laugh, or that I made him want to be a better person, or that he missed me while I was gone.

Nope. None of that.

I guess if I let my loneliness control my life, then we'd be growing old in separate bedrooms by now.


Casey said...

He could tell you when you were about to step in something.
I'm glad you've found wisdom in 30 Rock. And I'm glad you're not letting loneliness govern your choices. We certainly don't need another P-mo marriage in this family.
Remember on the Anna Howard Shaw episode, at the end? Where Liz confidently tells her hallucinated past lovers that the reason she's still single is because she's not done becoming who she really is? That was a funny part of that episode. And good insight.
P.S. Thanks for following me. Mary feels less lonely.

Katie--the amazing one, not your other friend named Katie. She's amazing, too, but not the same Katie as me-- said...

Oh, yeah. I forgot about that part. Liz Lemmon is so smart.

*MARY* said...

Liz Lemmon can eat my poop.

*MARY* said...

Hope you've seen that episode, otherwise I sound really gross.


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